Saturday, March 31, 2007

tired?? I know the reason know...haha

Those who know me well or really read my blog should know that i have been no moond and tired for this few week...at fisrt i do wondering why am i so tired...i don even do any tiring stuff or suffer from work?? And i just tired for without any reason..but now i know what am i so tired this few weeks...the reason is AUNTY VISIT....haha yeah which is what we call MC and the formall name is come period...hahaha...

I should know that each time the period near my period come...i will be super tired and no mood...I will no any motivation to do any stuff..and i just feel any stuff is so boring and sit a side and day dreaming...

Girls around here...do u all experience the pain of period...I have experience it a lot and i just hate the feeling of coming period sometimes...Beside that i do experience did not come period for about 4 months..i am so worrried that time...haha not because of pregnant stuff but i am wondering what have happen to my body...so my mother bring me consult doctor...hahaha
Until now the doctor also don know the realy reason..the ony thing he tell is don give urself too stress...try to relax more and be more happy...haha SO GIRLS..remember be happy all the time don give urself too stress it will cause a lot of health problem...

But i know that sometimes we cannot control the stress pressure come to us..like recently i will be having 2 assignments and 2 presentations due on 12 of april...i am so stress...But i should feel lucky or happy that there are friends try to help me..even not all but i do feel it is so good and so kind of them...love all my friends who are so caring and lovely..When they know i am under pressure will ask me to relax and caring me so much...Order me to sleep when it is too late...haha

Thursday, March 29, 2007

妻子...情人...紅顏知己

對於男人,經常要面對三個女人:妻子、情人、紅顏知己。

什麼是妻子?就是你願意把積蓄交給她保管的女人。

什麼是情人?就是你偷偷摸摸地去和她約會又怕妻子撞見的女人。

什麼是紅顏知己?就是你能把有些秘密說給她聽卻不能說給妻子聽的女人。

妻子是一種約束,約束你不能隨便和別的女人交往。

情人是一種補償,補償你想從妻子那得到卻又無法得到的激情。

紅顏知己就是一種點撥,點撥你心中的迷津。

妻子陪你過日子,情人陪你花鈔票,紅顏知己陪你聊聊天。

妻子不能替代情人,因為她沒有情人有情調。

情人不能代替妻子,因為她沒有妻子的親情。

妻子和情人都代替不了紅顏知己,那是心靈的需要。

妻子是一個和你沒有一點血緣關系的女人,卻為你深夜不回家而牽腸掛肚。

情人是一個和你沒有一點家庭關系的女人,卻讓你嘗盡做男人滋味盡情消魂。

紅顏知己是一個還沒和你扯上關系的女人,卻能分擔你的快樂和懮愁。

妻子是一個家,是一個能給你浮躁的心帶來安撫的港灣。

情人是家的累贅,只是不到萬不得已你不想甩掉。

紅顏知己是家的點綴,沒有她你不會覺得寂寞,但你會覺得生活沒意思。

妻子的關心像一杯白開水,有時會成為一種嘮叨,只是在生病時纔成為一種溫馨。

情人的關心就像在白開水裡加了一勺糖,慢慢地品上一個晚上還不滿足。

紅顏知己的關心就像工作到午夜喝一杯咖啡,越喝越提神。

妻子懷上你的孩子會深情地問你想要個男孩還是要個女孩。

情人懷上你的孩子會哭著來問你該怎麼辦怎麼辦啊?

對於紅顏知己,你會把你的情人懷孕的消息告訴她,並問她你該怎麼辦。

至於妻子,你會在她發現你的情人肚子大了的秘密後纔告訴她: 『其實,我早就想告訴你了。』然後拼命地向她解釋,並作可憐狀。 妻子回了娘家一個星期不回來你也不想。

情人三天不見你就給她打電話:上哪去了?今晚我們到老地方喝杯咖啡好嗎?

心中有了苦悶,你最想找個紅顏知己傾訴, 告訴她你在妻子和情人之間疲於奔命,實在受不了了。

最讓男人受不了的是妻子的嘮叨,情人的眼淚,紅顏知己的誤解。

妻子的嘮叨使男人的心亂上加亂。

情人的眼淚讓男人已硬的心變得酥軟。

紅顏知己的誤解把男人的心由懸崖推進深谷。

最好的妻子,就是男人能從她身上找到情人和紅顏知己兩種相互交織的感覺, 只是這種感覺男人很難找到。

最好的情人是在你和她的關系被妻子發現而主動退出又不提任何要求, 只是情人很難做到這點。

最好的紅顏知己是有一天她能成為情人,甚至妻子,只是這種想法很難實現。

如果有可能,男人都在想把紅顏知己變成情人。如果再有可能,再把她變成妻子。

只是變成妻子的紅顏知己就不再是知己了,因為很少有男人把自己的妻子當成知己的。

男人心中有好多秘密不能隨便說給妻子聽。

要不,那還叫男人嗎? 娶一個妻子是為了怕別人說閑話。

找一個情人是為了給單調的生活加點味精。

交一個紅顏知己是想給空虛的心靈澆點雞湯。

男人一生都在尋找的不是一個妻子,也不是一個情人,而是一個甚至更多的紅顏知己。

作為一個平凡的女人, 當然希望成為男人的情人!

但論聰明者, 莫過於當男人的紅顏知己, 因為男人無論成功與失敗都想和知己分享!

吵架的省思

吳淡如說:因為男人的堅持,愛有了一個梗概,因為女人的細密,愛有了一種神采;                                           所有的風雨可變成豐饒的土地, 把即將開出的玫瑰好好栽,怕困難的就不叫愛。

劉 墉說:「真正的愛情是,互相了解後,還能容忍對方的一切優缺點」。
 
真正的愛情是無所謂付出,無所謂收穫。

吵架的省思 吵架的時候,什麼最重要? 驕傲?自尊? 面子?輸贏? 這些都不重要,最重要的仍然是你心愛的那個人, 最重要的仍然是你們這份得來不易的感情。

本來在愛情裡,不管是爭執或衝突, 只要最後能協調、能化解就好了,哪有什麼贏者或輸家?真要爭誰贏誰輸,誰有面子誰又低聲下氣, 最後賠上的只是這份感情,誰也沒贏~實際上是兩敗俱傷。

有沒有想過,爭吵的目的是為什麼? 其實不是單純的為了道理講理, 而是對方不肯讓你,男生女生亦然, 因此爭吵到了最後其實早已偏離主題,而是為了賭一口氣。

好大的一口氣,代價不貲。 和好的時候,才體認出那些, 淚也白流了,氣也白生了,是何必?還是活該?

人生氣的時候,什麼狠絕的話都說的出來,什麼惡毒的事也做的出來。

但有情人生氣的時候,也必定保有溫暖的情懷,就看妳看不看得出來而妳看不看得出來,就看妳了不了解他,信不信任他。

生氣時不說氣話也不做惡事,真的很難,但起碼要學會退而求其次,懂得從中去感受原本就存在於兩人間的情意, 不消太多腦力,其實只要用一點心,有愛情的時候,其實什麼都好談,但一般人不易發現,也不太會利用這個道理。

如果每個人都能珍惜自己所擁有的情緣,不一定是愛情。

記得有一句話:「世界上有千萬種藥,就是沒有後悔的藥。」

真的!後悔也沒有用了。

千萬不要拿一份真情賭氣,那是非常不值得的!

【沒有解決不了的問題,只有不肯面對的人。】

人生是不是一定要被傳統思想帶住走

1. 凡事應量力而為, 讀書唔得就學好一技之長, 眼見好多年青人讀書差,但又怕辛苦,逃避現實唔出來工作, 持住有屋企養就呃書讀, 讀到26 7..歲都仲全職讀書, 從沒有想過可以日頭返工夜晚讀書, 白白捐失寶貴既工作經驗

.2. 返工其實都係為兩餐, 千奇唔好以氣用事, 同別人搞對立, 亦都唔好俾自己有咁大既工作壓力, 要調高自己既EQ, 控制個人情緒, 最理想搞好些人際關係, 係社會做事,有時識人好過識字, 好多麻煩事都係人製造出來, 只要搞惦人就等如搞惦好多麻煩事

3. 男人其實唔需要太早結婚(女人遲婚就比較麻煩. 因為選擇對象比較少), 鍾意家庭生活同安穩既人就另計,早婚只會縛住自己既生活空間, 有能力趁後生見識下紙醉金迷既花花世界亦都無仿, 做一些唔影響別人而自已又enjoy開心既事, 總好過婚後經常偷偷摸摸, 違背婚前既誠約, 拍拖時仲有選擇對象既權利, 但結婚就係一生一世既誠約,唔可以兒戲...

4. 結婚唔一定要急於買樓, 除非你好有經濟能力, 要量力而為, 千奇唔可以被家人既壓力影響你, 中國人既傳統觀念成日以為一定要有自己既屋先係完整既一個家, 所以就急於買樓, 供樓係一種長期而繁重既負擔, 分分鐘可以困繞你下半生

5. 如果冇經濟能力或冇陪養子女既心理準備, 又或者自己既心態未夠成熟, 千奇唔好生小孩, 生小孩唔單止要付出金錢去供書教學, 仲要付出時間同精神去陪養小孩既個人品格, 唔係生左出呢由得佢就算, 社會上有好多人連自己都養唔惦, 仲要生三, 四個小孩, 結果搞到家庭悲劇發生, 唔單只害了自己, 仲影響下一代既成長...

6. 人生最基本重要既資產就係健康, 試問如果冇健康, 點樣再去發展學業, 事業,愛情, 理想. 健康差既人連自己都照顧唔到, 又點去照顧你既親人同愛人呢??? 當你長時間放縱於煙酒色慾, 同時亦都要為你既健康付出沈重既代價, 偏偏這又是大部分人所忽略的

7. 人最終要面對死亡, 只不過是在世時間長與短既分別, 無論你富與貧, 優與劣,最終都要面對它, 死亡並不可怕, 最可怕就係生前自己一手一腳催毀自己既人生

婚姻中的悔與不悔

有人問:「結婚,到底好不好?」

其實,蘇格拉底很早以前就回答過相同的問題:「結不結婚,你都會後悔」

婚姻確實不自由
── 特別是偵測到帥哥或美女,打著陽光般的微笑,向你熱情放電時。   

婚姻確實是束縛
── 特別是想抽空做些什麼,卻因為擔心另一半顧家太辛苦只好放棄時。

婚姻是令人懊惱
── 特別是有孩子後想儘情玩耍,卻老得掛念家中有誰需要照顧或幫忙時

婚姻確實很折磨
── 特別是家裡一人病了全家病,醫藥費、病痛、壓力和沮喪一起瘋狂飆長時。

婚姻確實有恐怖
── 特別是女人面對某些要命的婆家,再怎麼努力也只配當個「次等家庭成員」;或是男人為了養家不得不努力擠進工作的黑洞,而且挖不到錢還不敢爬出來時。

婚姻是讓人灰心
── 特別是夫妻意見不合,抗議無效、對罵無力, 卻明明覺得被對方虧待時。

婚姻讓人厭煩
── 特別是日復一日努力、協調,也只能勉強維持家人生活品質時。

婚姻也讓人無助
── 特別是窮到只能花費精簡夠用,對家人的心疼與未來的疑懼只能默默承受時。 這種聽起來穩賠不賺的行業,要它做什麼?

1)婚姻讓你看清外貌的魔咒
── 就算是帥哥美女,只要不懂得珍惜你:一個平實的配偶,猶勝過十個漂亮的臭包裹。

2)婚姻讓你有被需要的感覺
── 你溫暖的懷抱永遠是家人最終渴望的處所:完全被信賴的感受,足以讓你忘卻所有煩憂。

3)婚姻讓你知道生命的豐富
── 它讓你在回家的路上知道有誰在等待你,迫不及待地想和你分享今天的學習,和成長的快樂。

4)婚姻讓你看到真正的犧牲
── 當全家人大病一場開始痊癒後,最後那一直沒病的人才會抱病倒下:婚姻讓你清楚看到誰曾無怨無悔的付出過。 

5)婚姻讓你知道自己的無價
── 如果人永遠只需在父母蔽蔭下成長,就不會驚覺自己其實也有套價值觀和理想:當婚姻讓你害怕失去自我時,它也同時加速你的成長,推動你打造未來。

  6)婚姻讓你知道貧窮的祝福
── 白手起家的辛苦讓人看到不管是貧是富,那背後真正溫暖人心的愛與親情,遠勝過所有物質的力量。

7)婚姻教你爭吵不是辦法
── 夫妻間誰對誰錯、誰好誰壞、誰高誰下都不是最重要的事,夫妻終于發現:「彼此相愛」才是克服一切困難的法寶。

8)婚姻讓你知道穩定的代價
── 日復一日的例行公事,看似枯燥無味,比起大風大浪後的死寂,還是略勝一籌:穩定,幫助你學習尋找並珍惜當下的快樂。

婚姻給人單身沒有的麻煩,也給人單身沒有的喜悅。
當然某些單身的自由自在,在婚姻中難能擁有;婚姻中的豐富深刻,單身也難以想像。
婚或不婚是很私人的決定,任何人都能給你意見,卻不一定有誰的意見會適合你。
如果你能在以上所列出的清單中找到你渴望從婚姻中得到的事物,也許該做的不是刻意逃避婚姻以免受傷害,而是花更多心思準備自己,儘可能做好萬全準備 以便面對各種成長的挑戰。
是的,結不結婚,你都會後悔 只是,沒有人能向你證明婚姻會不會為你帶來幸福,你得自己向自己證明:你有能力學習創造幸福。

未完的小說

去年我到東京參加書展,拜訪了不少日本出版社,希望可以買到一些好書的版權,把書引介進台灣。
日本出版社在介紹他們的書給我之前,先很客氣的提醒我:「台灣的童書出版公司都會要求故事一定要有一個結局,可是日本的童書有很多,故事是沒有結局的......」
我笑笑說:「不要擔心,我的公司沒有這種堅持,沒有結局的故事若是很棒,也請介紹給我吧。」
結局就是答案
我們唸書時,上課習慣要老師教一個標準答案;
考試時,當然也要給一個標準答案。看電視、電影,一定要劇情交代得很清楚哪個是壞人、哪個是好人,最後男女主角到底有沒有在一起、壞人死了沒有。
沒有結局的,就是沒有答案,我們就不懂了! !
這也是我們整個文化表現對一個作品能不能理解的標準。
所以,很遺憾的,我們的編劇就覺得只要給觀眾「台灣霹靂火」這種東西就可以了。
好人一路好到底、壞人完全沒心肝,非黑即白,沒有灰色地帶,壞人不會有好下場,好人一定有好報,答案清清楚楚,完全不必用到大腦。
其實,我們都知道---人生很多事情沒有答案。
一個在公司討人厭的傢夥,可能回到家是個好得不得了的爸爸,因為他要給兒子最好的,不得不在公司壓過別人、好多掙一點錢給兒子買好東西。
你說,他是好人還是壞人?一個每天安分守己過日子的老好人,竟然得了癌症.....你說,這是好人還是壞人的下場?
這些有關人生、人性的複雜多樣,我們一直要經歷過很多很多事之後,有幸的人才可以有一點點體會理解。
這要怎麼教給孩子呢?很難!真正的人生是要自己親身走過才算數的,別人怎麼教都有限。
我們唯一能做的,就是不要在孩子還小的時候,就給他設限、給他太多所謂的標準答案。好的故事是會讓人留在心裡想很久很久的。
有沒有答案都一樣。我曾經看過一些法國童書在最後給了三個不同的結局。
明明是同一個故事發展出來的,卻可以有三個不同的結局。
我問過法國出版社的人,他們的小朋友怎麼看待這種多樣結局的故事呢?
他們說:「很平常呀!就跟看一般書一樣。」
顯然這對法國小朋友來說,根本不值得大驚小怪的當一個問題看!
我很心懷嚮往那樣的閱讀胸襟,所以很大膽的引進一本看似沒有結局的法國童書--《海上小精靈》(Un gnome a la mer)。
故事裡的小男孩有一本很心愛的書,可是那本書因為太破舊了、缺了幾頁,糟糕的是,缺的那幾頁正好是最精采的結局!
一本沒有結局的書呢! 真是吊人胃口!
小男孩於是自己開始往下編故事了,他的結局是.....當然書裡面有小男孩編的結局,聽故事的小朋友是不是也可以試試看編一個屬於自己的故事呢?
這就是人生!有一些是我們無可選擇的,也有一些是我們自己可以掌控的。
故事跟人生一樣,都需要一點時間練習。
沒有從小一直接受別人給答案的小孩,會相信世界有無限可能,不會只拿一條路來堵死自己;也會相信人是有千百樣的,不會因為別人跟自己一點點不一樣就恨別人或怪自己,對世界的包容性會較強。我們每個人對這個世界的了解,都只是一部分而已。
不要急著給孩子答案、不要隨便剝奪孩子自己嘗試的機會,讓孩子自己去看、去感受這個世界。沒有答案的故事,其實有更多可能......

~愛情條約~

1.當愛情出現選擇時,受傷的人便不止一個

2.踏出愛情的第一步並不難,惟有「誠」字而已

3.愛情是世上唯一可以自私的事,無法與人共享

4.世界上沒有二個愛情故事是一樣的

5.初戀通常不會成功,因為都還不懂得珍惜彼此

6.愛她就要包容她的一切

7.在愛情這道菜裡,醋是不可或缺的調味品

8.愛與被愛都是幸福的,愛人的要無怨無悔,被愛的要心存感激

9.愛與恨是一體兩面的,你恨一個人有多深,就代表你曾愛她有多重

10.真金不怕火煉,最真摯的愛情也經的起考驗

11.在心中深深的愛著一個人,是人一生中的浪漫之最

12.不要輕易的接受愛情,一旦接受了就要終身不渝

13.沒有人能預知情人彼此的愛戀是否是有情人終成眷屬,唯一能做的唯有珍惜與把握對方

14.婚前的愛情可以是單純的浪漫,婚後的愛情除了浪漫外還要有責任心

15.選擇適合你的愛情,因為最好的未必最適合你

16.愛要表現出來,對方才會知道

17.愛要自己去把握,失去的機會永不再回來

18.愛情的神祕與浪漫,就在於它只能意會不能言傳

19.有些人花了一生的時間才能了解愛情,卻有人在剎那間就刻骨銘心

20.有人因為錯誤而結合,因了解而分開,雖然終究了解了愛情,但代價未免也太大了

21.再美的愛情,也有曲終人散的時候

22.戀愛是「談」出來的,所以交往的過程要多了解彼此

23.過多的愛也是一種負擔

24.情人的眼裡是容不下一粒細沙的

25.如果不得不分手,也要好聚好散,畢竟對方曾經是妳的最愛,也曾深深地,深深的愛過你

26.讓心愛的人過的快樂,是當時的最終目的

27.真愛不只是手牽著手,肩並著肩而已,還要心連著心

28.戀愛另人陶醉,結婚令人清醒

29.愛是不必說抱歉的

30.最美最真的愛情,一生只有一次

31.在愛情的列車上,永遠沒有候補的乘客

32.戀愛使人年輕,失戀使人更加成熟

33.婚前你要睜大眼睛,婚後你要睜一隻眼,閉一隻眼

34.世上沒有無盡的幸福,也沒有永遠的悲哀

35.戀人的選擇沒有好壞之分,只有適不適合而已

36.婚戒不只是首飾而已,而是相愛倆人頭上的光環,從此倆人不再流浪而要相扶持,體諒直到永遠

37.愛一個人多麼不容易,所以不要輕易去恨

38.如果能珍惜現在,剎那即成永恆

39.情到深處轉為濃,愛到深處無怨尤

40.愛是沒有條件的,有條件的愛不過是一場遊戲罷了

41.男女之間的甜言蜜語,只能相信三分之一

42.愛情只是男人生命的插曲,卻是女人生命的全部

43.不要總是等到別人付出,你才回應,不要等到悲劇降臨,才後悔莫及

44.當你愛上一個人時,考慮清楚你是真的愛她嗎

45.每個熱戀當中的女孩要的都是真愛,而不是虛假的愛情

怎樣才能讓單身生活更多姿多彩?

1、認可自己的容貌,但不能原地踏步天生的容貌是無法改變的。但是我們卻可以使我們的圓臉更可愛。我們不是清水裏的芙蓉,需要後天的雕琢。單身的女人不用為了取悅別人而打扮自己,但我們有權利使自己清爽乾淨俐落,有權利穿合適得體的衣服使自己更飄然。

2、培養情趣至少有一種事情比`人做得好。畫畫、書法、寫作、舞蹈、口才或者其他適時表現但不要急於表現的才華。藏納才華如同陳酒,愈釀愈香,愈香飄得愈遠。

3、耐住寂寞利用寂寞的閒暇做點合乎志趣的事情,可以在寧靜的夜裏泡杯咖啡隨著嫋嫋香氣沉澱往事,又或者畫幅畫,做個小手工,隨著音樂舞蹈……生命之於我只有一次,享受這片刻的嫺靜。

4、拒絕同居 同居的女人以為同居能牢固愛情、換來婚姻,真是大錯特錯。不同居的女子有自己的工作,有自己的追求,有溫馨的朋友圈……試想,一個沒有婚姻保障的女人,整日做著柴米油煙的雜活兒,能有多美麗?

5、做個好的營養師單身獨居的女人沒有人照顧可也不用去照顧別人。具有魅力的單身女人一定要學會保持平衡,包括飲食習慣。瞭解科學飲食,調和自己的同時給別人好的意見。要知道皮膚和身材及心情好壞跟科學飲食有很大的關係。

6、讓自己的身體和心情輕舞飛揚選擇一種運動,並形成習慣。散步使你放鬆,登山培養你的不羈和野性,游泳使你魚一樣純粹,跑步讓生命奔放。

7、學會愛,釋放愛單身的女人懂得自愛,但不要掩飾自己的愛。愛之于女性是天然的骨子裏湧動著的。一個善良的女人如同陽光,再陰暗的人也無法抗拒陽光的醇厚。女人要愛動物,愛自然,愛周遭的一切。試著撫摩嬰兒的臉,親吻一位老人的皺紋,擁抱迷途的小動物。

8、不刻薄自己單身女人沒有義務為家庭為愛人盡責任,可以該吃的吃、該穿的穿。要知道,這個世界上沒有人比你更愛自己。你若不對自己好,誰又會對你好呢?

9、努力工作 工作最基本的需求是賺取生活費用,養活自己,補充家用。但是,現在更多的單身女人努力工作是為了釋放自己最大的價值,在不斷的進取和成績中獲得肯定和自我完善。她們與那些放棄工作、走入家庭的女性形成鮮明的對比,她們更獨立自主、特立獨行,為社會創造價值,是城市街頭匆匆奔走的亮麗風景線。

10、學會獨立女人,你一定要獨立,要知道任何人都是一個人來、一個人離開這個世界的,因此除了自己沒有誰會與你形影相隨到永遠。經濟上、精神上都要站得穩,要從大學畢業就開始培育自己的事業。表面柔弱的我們骨子裏其實可以與任何人分庭抗禮!

女人疼愛男人的10種方式

當你愛上一個男子,
千萬別去想自己是不是應該矜持一點。愛他就告訴他,有時候男人也很愛虛榮,你的表白會讓他的自信達到頂點。

當你已經不愛他了,
那麼也用最直接的方式告訴他。別去考慮他會不會脆弱,男人的自尊遠比傷痛重要。

當你們已經相愛,
那麼就要對他信任,有什麼想法就告訴他,不管他支持不支持。任何一個男子都希望他的女人依靠他.

在他的朋友面前,
要給他十足的地位。面子對男子來說比什麼都重要,不要介意在人前當個小女人,要知道小女人都是男人寵出來的。

他在打遊戲的時候,
不論你有多急的事情,也不要直接去關他的電腦。最好是摟著他,在他耳邊輕輕的細語。因為男人對遊戲的執迷勝過你看一部精彩的肥皂劇。

男人每個月也有那幾天,
跟女人差不多,心情無故低落。這個時候不要問他怎麼了,只要陪在他身邊。做好你自己。

他和朋友出去喝酒、打牌,
你不要問他為什麼不帶你一塊前往。男人都願意做風箏,只要線還在你手上那麼就放他去飛吧。

男人都很懶很笨,
盡管他愛你,但是不想費盡心絲討好你,你所能做的就是在適當的時候給他個明示。男人有時候需要女人給他強有力的當頭一棒。

男人不管他外表有多強大,
但是骨子裡還是一個孩子。他在任性的時候不要對他大吼大叫,這對他不起做用。最有效的辦法是陪他一起瘋。等他平靜後輕輕的告訴他你很愛他。

男人都是不肯認錯的,
在他知道錯的時候給他一個台階下,他會知恩圖報的。體諒一個男人,那就是把他當成你的愛人、情人、哥哥、朋友、父親、孩子。愛他,不要給他負擔,給他自由,給自己自由。做女人要知道什麼時候該進什麼時候該退。什麼時候該擋在他的前面;什麼時候該躲在他身後。把他當成你自己一樣去愛護,成全了他的幸福,他才會成全你的幸福。

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

MOOD?? WHAT HAPPEN

I am wondering what happen to myself this few days??i been no mood for a week...i have no mood to do anything..my assingment, my blog , etc...maybe everyone tried this feeling before and i used to have this feeling before also but until now i still don know what happen to myself..Is there anyone here know why we will feel no mood sometimes and not even have litter interest to single of thing...

I been not feeling well for a week..cause of my LOW BLOOD PRESSURE problem...many friends used to ask me since you know you got low blood pressume why not consult doctor and ask what can u do and how to cure it...but everyone who reading this ..my low blood pressure is born with it..it mean from the day i born out i already got low blood pressure...which is call Talasimiu..i am not really sure does it spell correctly..but the good thing for me is it is minor in my case which is not the serious one...but still t do affect our day to day basis work sometimes..地中海贫血 is the chinese name for my low blood pressure...

when most of my red blood cell die and the new one haven produce it out..i just feel so sleepy, no mood to everything and easily get panic...still got many others sickness but i cannot tell all here..haha the reason is i cannot remember now... Many friend ask me to be relax and don be too stress...and remain calm..don be too exciting and be keep the mood happy...haha thank to those who concern me...thank you everyone i love you guys...muaks

I have feel better this feel days but the probllem is my period is coming soon i guess but the problem is before my period come i have to suffer some pain and sometimes even very pain...I know that i should go see doctor and ask him to cure all the bad stuff in my ovum...but i just scare...

I know that i have a weak body and i don even knoe how to take care of myself...but i am trying very hard now...trying to work hard on everything,....eat more fruits, eat something good to health and not spoil the health itself...

Friday, March 23, 2007

everything different

Do anyone of you realise that everyone beside you start to change..not only outlook and also mind thought?when i am in primary school, i only think of study, play, and many others simple stuff..when i graduate in primary school..i go to secondary school, everyone around me start to change...girls start to know how to make herself become prettier and how to attrack guys...beside that some are still very concern study..but some will only think of guys..this is very true..even you or me are the same..Beside of this kind of stuff...everyone start to think something different compare to primary school...will start to think some bad stuff and will make a lot of crime(not everyone)..

When i was in secondary, i only think of pass every subjects and don wanna pay attention to every class..beside that i start to realise that guys are attractive and i start to like a guy(which i guess everyone will have this kind of experience too...but i guess it is just a puppy love and not even know what is love). Beside that, some girl even think about playing guys and some guys also wanna play with girls only...i mean just flirting around and not going to put their heart to the relationship..Some of them even get pregnant and some even go aborsion but some will also get marry....but i am just wondering if the marrage come too early and the reason of marrage is because there is a small baby...how long will the marrage last??i know it is not good to say so...i do come toward some marrage can last long but most of these kind of marrage cannot really last long...

Beside that..everyone in the relationship will only think of as a bf and gf only..no one will think of marry the one beside she or he...Beside that..everyone will save money to buy something they like for example hand phone? laptop?or something luxury and not necassary have to buy it...but this is what teenagers want during our ages...

After we have graduate...we step into colleage...some even stop study after form 5...Evryone start to have abit stable relationship or better relationship life?? And everyone start to be more mature...Some of us got the oppurtunity to drive a car to coll but some still gotta take bus or etc...beside that some start to show off of their car and some even more luxury stuff and some even wanna compare whose gf is more pretty...Some of the girl even want to find a bf not because of feeling or whatever but because of money..which guy is rich they will go after him..haha..many girls know how to make up and make themselves look more pretty to attrack guys...But I guess it is still a lot of happiness appear at this few stage...

When we getting older and older...I start to realise that..our topic start to change..we use to discuss what is the latest model of phone and etc those nosense stuff...but now all my friends start to discuss about working stuff...financial stuff...marrage stuff...and buying house or car stuff...I start to realise..everything beside me are changing rapidly..we cannot go back to past..
everyone around me start to have a stable relationship and some even plan to marrage within one or two years later...I don know.. I start to confuse...when is my turn??

Thursday, March 22, 2007

親愛的爸媽,今天......我死了......

在動物保護協會網頁看到這篇文章 覺得好心酸好難過喔~~~ 有養寵物的人要好好照顧牠們喔!

親愛的爸媽 Dear Mom and Dad,

今天我死了。
I died today.

你對我感到厭倦了,所以你把我送去了收容所。收容所的動物已經太多了,而我抽到了不幸的號碼。
You got tired of me and took me to the shelter. They were overcrowded and I drew an unlucky number.

現在被裝進黑色塑膠袋的我靜靜躺在掩埋場裡。
I am in a plastic bag in a landfill now.

你留下來幾乎全新的牽繩會給其他小狗狗用。
Some other puppy will get the barley used leash you left.

我的項圈又髒又太小,不過阿姨在送我上天堂之前幫我把它拿下來了。
My collar was dirty and too small, but the lady took it off before she sent me to the Rainbow Bridge.

如果我沒有咬壞你的鞋,你會不會讓我留下來?
Would I still be at home if I hadn't chewed your shoe?

我不知道那是什麼,只知道那是皮的,而且你把它丟在地上。你忘了幫我買狗狗玩具了。
I didn't know what it was, but it was leather, and it was on the floor. I was just playing. You forgot to get me puppy toys.

如果我沒有在家裡大小便,你會不會讓我留下來?
Would I still be at home if I had been housebroken?

你把我的鼻子壓在便便裡面只會讓我對需要上廁所感到羞愧。
Rubbing my nose in what I did made me ashamed I had to go at all.

書跟訓練老師都可以告訴你如何教會我走到門口要你開門的
There are books and obedience teachers that would have taught you how to teach me to go to the door.

如果我沒有把跳蚤帶到家裡來,你會不會讓我留下來?
Would I still be at home if I hadn't brought fleas into the house?

我身上沒有驅蟲藥,我沒有辦法在你把我留在院子裡好幾天後跑到我身上的跳蚤抓下來。 Without anti-flea medicine, I couldn't get them off me after you left me in the yard for days and days.

如果我沒有亂叫,你會不會讓我留下來?
Would I still be home if I hadn't barked and barked?

我只是想告訴你:“我好害怕,我好孤單,我在這裡阿!我想成為你最好的朋友!”
I was only saying "I'm scared, I'm lonely, I'm here, I'm here! I want to be your best friend."

如果我讓你開心,你會不會讓我留下來?
Would I still be at home if I had made you happy?

但是打我並不會讓我知道怎麼取悅你。
Hitting me didn't help.

如果你願意花時間照顧我,教我如何當一隻好狗狗,我是不是就可以留下來了?
Would I still be at home if you had taken the time to care for me and to teach me manners?

差不多第一星期之後你就沒有再注意過我了,但是我一直都在等著你來愛我
You didn't pay attention to me after the first week or so, but I spent all my time waiting for you to love me.

今天我死了.....
I died today.....

愛,絕不是缺了就找,更不是累了就換...

愛,絕不是缺了就找,
更不是累了就換找一個能一起吃苦的,
而不是一起享受的找一個能一起承擔的,
而不是一起一起逃避的找一個能对妳負責的,
而不是对愛情負責的愛情是盲目的,
生活是現實的因為愛情只不過是人类为了逃避現實而衍生的産品為了逃避現實,
我寻找爱情為了尋找愛情,
我失去真情失去了真情,
才發現早已身陷虛情……
愛,絕不是缺了就找,更不是累了就換你以為愛情是什么?
一點點的动心,一點點的衝動,一個擁抱一個吻?
天真的人,日劇看多了,痞子蔡的文章看多了。
這也許是愛情的一部分,但絕對不是大部分愛情的主体是生活,
一起生活你能陪她一時的难过,但你能陪她承受所有的壓力嗎?
你能給她身体的溫度,但你能給她生活的方向吗?
你可曾想象當熱情褪去,擁抱对妳已經没有任何吸引力你们如何走下去?
距离是真愛的考驗,由時間作為答案為了你深爱的人,
請做出點牺牲,守住你们的愛情否則怎么能談得上真正的愛情你可以忘記以前的誓言,
但要記住自己的真心。撫心自問,你是否愛的那么深?
你願意讓兩個人都受傷嗎?
愛,絕不是缺了就找,更不是累了就換
生活不是一個人好好的活是兩個人如何一起好好的過但是一些客觀的原因,
現實中你们目前還不能在一起難到你就這樣輕易放棄,而委屈求全了嗎?
難到你就不能为愛守候嗎?
你允許自己的目光如此短浅,而只看见眼前的快樂嗎?
一生就這樣的走完吗?

from this article..i feel like it is just saying about myself sometimes...when i quarrel with my ex, i will think of tired and wanna break up get a new one..but it seem like not the right way to do it..i guess many ppl are doing the same things but not everyone will realise...i never think of this question last time but the elder i grow the more thing i start to understand..sometimes i rather single also don wanna simply get one guy to be my bf...

laziness

I am wondering why am i so lazy nowadays??I should be studying and working hard in this semester..This is my final semester and i am taking 5 subjects this semester...but but but i just cannot make myself study and even look at those text books....Once i start read my text book i start to feel sleepy and even start to yarn...what the...where is my hard working and inteligent gone...(maybe i should say i don have both of this attitute since i am small)

This semester i am taking accounting theory, acounting ethical issues, myob, financial market and chinese 1...yes..everyone i am taking chinese 1..haha and i gotta learn all the father, mother, grandmother stuff in the class...i feel like sleeping each time i attent the class but but but i have to go for the class..you guys know why?cause i don know when will got exam or small text..all is marks. I promise myself that i must get D or HD for this subjucts cause i am grad in chinese school leh...haha

I guess many ppl will think i am so stupid since i know chinese already why i still want to waste my time to take chinese...the reason is i scare i cannot pass all subject so i rather take something easy also don wanna take the risk to fail...i don wanna stay in aus anymore...I wanna go back to kl..there are so many reason i have to back to kl...One of the reason is all my jie mui are in kl...you guys know who i am mentioning huh..haha

For the other 4 subjects..I have no idea to the myob..it can consider easy and it can consider hard as well..haha cause no exam but full of assigment and this is a computer software..haha those who know me well will sure know i am a computer idiot...but i dare to take this as one of my elective..haha i think i am so brave huh..but i guess someone will be very sad that i am taking same subject with him and keep on ask for his help...but i do feel very happy and i think i relly owe him a lot..he really help me a lot in this subjects..Yee Seng...yes is you thank you and i know i have cause you a lot of trouble but i tell you what you will suffer this until end of the semester..haha

Accounting theory is a year 3 subject and this subject is talking about account histary OMG...i hate histary a lot but why should i read this subject...and everyone guess what..Yee Seng is taking same subject with me..haha so he is not going to throw me away..haha

Accounting ethical issue is something about what should do and what we have to do as a accountant...haha those who know me well sure know that my moral is DAMN GOOD...haha i start to worry why should we take this kind of subject??

Financial market??haha don ask me what does it about cause i don even start read the notes...i have totally no idea with it...From what i write here...everyone knows i am still day dreaming all the time...

Saturday, March 17, 2007

停电

歌手:陈小春&黄馨

馨:围着你转围着你转甜蜜也单调的1个圈围着你转围着你转难道我生活只得这个圈
春:其实我更厌这惯性相恋维系到这里都觉得愈撑愈倦
合:与你吻了太多遍互望逐渐没有电连谈情亦望背面
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馨:离家出走也好春:无须早见夜见馨:免致爱待你敷衍谁都不敢讲
春:谁都深知道
合:已过了最高的1点终于烧光了吗彼此的火花1起归家仍害怕终于熄灯了吗听到呼吸吗你与我放弃了对话终于干了吗溅开的水花1点1点尽力去找到吗激情真的取之不歇吗(激情真的可取之不歇吗)馨:停电吗
春:火花烧光了吧
馨:能相恋
合:就可相处吗答案未令我惊讶
*repeat*
春:最怕到你有天什么亦用尽至发觉到奉信的忠诚无用
合:都只不过为了不愿动我惯了避免他变动
春:你会放弃我吗
馨:你会放弃我吗
合:你会放过我吗

If wan me to choose a song for my situation and feeling...i guess this is quite suitable for me...haha
those who know me well..i guess you all know why...

Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Change ??

Why everyone like to tell someone that you have change when the one you used to know well don really treat you as how he or she treat you last time?I guess actually everyone in the world is change everyday..the reason change can because of the person they mix with..the life they have and many others stuff that can change a person easily..
I know everyone will change even the person who ask this question are changing as well..since you and i are changing at the same time..why must you ask me why you have change and not think about yourself whether you do change??maybe i do change and change to someone you don like but maybe you are the one who change and you cannot accept how i remain now...haha
Beside this..i guess when someone tell you that you have change..you will surely ask what i have change and do i change to a better one or a worse one...I don know..i think this is not a good question cause maybe A will think i have change to a better one but B might think i have change to a worse one...this is really very personal answer...no one is a correct answer...since like that why must we care do we change to a better one or worse one..We should care about are we changing to the one that we want to be..We born in this world and you are the only one can only choose what kind of life you want..
I know that i have change...i used to be a girl that very quite, no friends, don know how to interect with others, social life is very very very small, will back home stright aways after school, no good friend and don know how to speak out what i like and dislike..haha maybe some ppl don find this is a bug problem..but i think this is quite big for me..i believe that everyone should have their own friends, own life, own family and etc..yes we do have to care about out family but family is not ur whole world...
Now i have change to another person i guess...haha be more active, have my own friends, own life and etc...But why my family don seem happy about my change?maybe i no longer stick to my own family d...I just busy with my friends and some others things...i know i should be with them more but...sorry mummy, daddy, sister and brother..i always love you all ...and beside of them i really feel sorry and sometimes even feel like wanna cry once i thinkof her...my lovely dogy muimui...i really don give her my time...i didn manage to take care of her since i go oversea study...

Friday, March 09, 2007

[必看] 教你28招,讓你在社交,職場上人人對你刮目相看

1.長相不令人討厭,如果長得不好,就讓自己有才氣;如果才氣也沒有,那就總是微笑。

2.氣質是關鍵。如果時尚學不好,寧願純樸。

3.與人握手時,可多握一會兒。真誠是寶。

4.不必什麼都用「我」做主語。

5.不要向朋友借錢。

6.不要「逼」客人看你的家庭相冊。

7.與人打「的」時,請搶先坐在司機旁。

8.堅持在背後說別人好話,別擔心這好話傳不到當事人耳朵裡。

9.有人在你面前說某人壞話時,你只微笑。

10.自己開小車,不要特地停下來和一個騎自行車的同事打招呼。人家會以為你在炫耀。

11.同事生病時,去探望他。很自然地坐在他病床上,回家再認真洗手。

12.不要把過去的事全讓人知道。

13.尊敬不喜歡你的人。

14.對事不對人;或對事無情,對人要有情;或做人第一,做事其次。

15.自我批評總能讓人相信,自我表揚則不然。

16.沒有什麼東西比圍觀者們更能提高你的保齡球的成績了。所以,平常不要吝惜你的喝彩聲。

17.不要把別人的好,視為理所當然。要知道感恩。

18.榕樹上的「八哥」在講,只講不聽,結果亂成一團。學會聆聽。

19.尊重傳達室裡的師傅及搞衛生的阿姨。

20.說話的時候記得常用「我們」開頭。

21.為每一位上台唱歌的人鼓掌。

22.有時要明知故問:你的鑽戒很貴吧!有時,即使想問也不能問,比如:你多大了?

23.話多必失,人多的場合少說話。

24.把未出口的「不」改成:「這需要時間」、「我盡力」、「我不確定」、「當我決定後,會給你打電話」……

25.不要期望所有人都喜歡你,那是不可能的,讓大多數人喜歡就是成功的表現。

26.當然,自己要喜歡自己。

27.如果你在表演或者是講演的時候,如果只要有一個人在聽也要用心的繼續下去,即使沒有人喝采也要演,因為這是你成功的道路,是你成功的搖籃,你不要看的人成功,而是要你成功。

28.如果你看到一個貼子還值得一看的話,那麼你一定要回復,因為你的回復會給人繼續前進的勇氣,會給人很大的激勵。同時也會讓人感激你。

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

分手後要記住的10件事 ~~~

一 當愛情不在的時候,請對他說聲祝福。畢竟,曾經愛過。

二 結束以後別告訴他我恨你。 因為,愛情是兩個人的事,錯過了大家都有責任 。

三 離開以後想到的定是落寞的畫面,但請你忘記它。 一個人總要有個新的開始,別讓過去把你栓在悲哀的殿堂。

四 , 別說你最愛的是誰,人生還很長,誰也無法預知明天。 也許你的真愛還在下一秒等著你。

五 說分手的時候不要吵鬧。畢竟兩個在在一起那麼久, 分了他也會難過。 只是他比較明智, 不想束縛你的或他的明天。 好聚好散,以後,還是朋友。

六 別把哀傷掛在嘴上, 每個人都有自己的故事。 活著不是為了懷念昨天,而是要等待希望 , 讓大家都看到你的堅強。 離開他你也可以過得很好

七 離開以後, 大聲的告訴他:我愛你,與你無關。 愛是你的權利, 把想說的都說出來, 平靜的回憶你們的過去, 然後哭吧。 哭完就把一切都留在昨天 , 永遠不要去觸及。

八 想他的時候, 就想想他的好,他的笑。 記得曾經愛過一個人 , 別去管最後是誰開始了背叛, 開心過就好 。

九 分手了就做回自己, 一個人的世界同樣有月升月落,也有美麗的瞬間, 把他歸為記憶。

十 一個人的世界總需要另一個人做陪襯, 他離開了, 那是他襯不起你, 相信自己會有更好的明天。 花兒謝了明天還是一樣的開

習慣戀愛 (給單身的人)

多久沒有拍拖?還記得上一次分手時有多痛嗎?
四年。記得清清楚楚。失戀令人傷心,除了因為一下子要接受喜歡的人離去,亦是因為要接受一個殘酷的現實──往後的日子將會孤伶伶的面對。
孤伶伶並不是因為沒人陪伴,而是因為心靈多了一片空白,是硬生生把心裡黏得緊緊的感覺拔出來後的空白。這種空白是唯一的,世上沒有任何東西可以填補。
愛情是愛情,友情是友情,總有些地方,就算再多的朋友也填不滿。有人叫這點點空白為空虛。沒有愛情的人,如沒有陽光的花,死不了,也好不來。
「沒有陽光,我想我過不了夏季。」花說。
又過了一年。「沒有陽光,我想我過不了秋天。」花又說。
又過了一年。「沒有陽光的日子,很難過」花習慣了抱怨,但日子依然一年一年的過去。
「沒有陽光,就沒有吧。」戀愛是一種習慣,不戀愛亦然。
戀愛中的人,害怕失戀,害怕痛,因為,「我習慣了戀愛。」單身久了的人,害怕戀愛,害怕再痛,因為,「我習慣了不戀愛。」
當沒有了愛也活了下來,沒有了,又如何?每天習慣了不用?報行蹤,還是留戀這種自由。
習慣了和身邊的異性朋友無顧慮地相處,總覺現在還過得舒舒適適。習慣了的日子過得好端端的,就找不到要變的理由。
空白並沒有消失,總有些時候感到它存在。正如戀愛的人總有些「想靜」的時候,卻要伴著對方消磨。這不是晦氣話,也不是自我安慰,祇是,「我真的習慣了。」
太陽慢慢昇起,花兒架起了一副有型有款的太陽眼鏡,因為陽光太刺眼了。

Friday, March 02, 2007

5 reasons why i create a bloge


Oh my god....Cat you are really a bad girl and i start to wonder am i your jie mui haa....you tag me to write a blog as a homework for u..haha I think i better faster hand in my homework first if not later my semester start to be busy i cannot hand in my homeowork..haha
Since my topic is about what i wanna start or create a blog...My first reason is actually i do feel like have my own blog long time ago but the problem is i don know which blog is free of charge and how to create a blog..as everyone know me well, know that i am a IT or pc idiot..i just don know how to start and how to mantain it...beside that i also scare that i do scare no ppl will look or read my blog..
second reason i want to create a new blog cause Yenny, Cat, and Jamy already create one here..as one of their jie mui i also have to create one...I love to get involve and from there we can left our message to those we want and we can check out messge when we are free..everyone is working now..not everyone can meet up for each date or gathering...In the blog, we can still know what each other is doing and what others jie mui worry with...and they will also give me some idea and comment if they want...
Third reason...I can write down some artice that i don dare to tell ppl infront of that person...beside that i can post some meaningfull articles in my post...from the post i post up..my friends or others ppl will know what i am thinking and maybe i can find someone have the same thinking as me..issen that good to know somone here?Cause i just love to meet more friends and know more ppl...
the 4th reason is my english..i want to improve my english and writting skill. I always wish i can speak and write in a very proper and good english..but i know it is very hard to do so..But never mind, cause i know trying my best now..i try to write in english articles and if i say something wrong my friends will tell me the correct one..i just love them a lot cause i know they are doing for my good..love you guys cheryl and yuan...so everyone who are reading my blog tell me whatever i have did wrong here...
The final reason...ahh.. the final one is reall hard to think leh...i can only think of 4 reasons but now i am stuck..what is my last reason ahh...i know what is my final reason d...my final reason is i am too lonely..writing or create a blog can waste some of my time and there is something for me to do...haha i guess this is not a good reason but this is how i think at this moment..writing a post can help me to waste up some of my time and i don have to think what i should do the next...and now i cannot live without internet..internet can help me to communcate with ppl and i can write my post and check who leave me a message there...
Finally i have finish all my reasons...My lovely teacher Cat..here is my homework..